Tuesday, February 16, 2016

Six Months Have Passed, I Am Divorced Right?


NO, you are not divorced!!! This is a myth that has gotten a number of people in trouble.


The code provides that you can be an unmarried person in six months and one day after the Respondent was served. Notice, you can be, not you are an unmarried person.

So how does this all work? Say you resolve your case and the Judgment is sent to court three months after the Respondent was served. The court will sign the Judgment and it will become a binding court order. On the face of the Judgment is a place the court stamps the day you are an unmarried person. Since, in this hypothetical, you were done in three months, you have not met the six month time frame. The court will stamp a date six months and one day from the date the papers were served on the face sheet.

Let’s say it takes a year to get the issues resolved. You are not divorced just because the six months passed. You will be married until the court signs the Judgment. Again there is a place on the face sheet where the court will fill in the date you are an unmarried person. So you will be married until the date the court signs the Judgment.

If you want to be an unmarried person as soon as possible, you can request the issue of your marital status be addressed by the court prior to resolving the other issues. This is called a Bifurcation of Marital Status. It is not automatic; you have to formally request it. The court may or may not grant your request depending on issues related to health insurance and/or retirement plans.

Tuesday, February 9, 2016

Mediation vs. Mediation


Many people get the two confused because the same word is used to describe two very different types of processes.


One is mediation as a form of alternative dispute resolution. The other is mediation provided by the court to assist the parties in working out a custody and visitation agreement for the children.

Let’s start with mediation as the form of alternative dispute resolution. This is a process where the parties work with a neutral third party, the mediator. The mediator can help the parties work out an agreement on all of the issues in a divorce including child custody and visitation. The hope is that the parties will be able to work with the mediator to reach a comprehensive agreement not have to go to court. Issues which can be resolved in mediation include child custody/visitation, child support, spousal support and the division of community property assets and debts. The mediator is an independent person. They may be an attorney, but that is not a requirement. They are not employed by the court.

Mediation through the court is for child custody and visitation issues only. Mediation is required by law when either party brings an issue involving child custody and/or visitation before the court. In other words, a motion is filed with the court asking a judge to decide on custody and/or visitation. The court will order the parties to attend mediation before the court makes an order. The mediator’s in this case are mental health professionals with specific training required by the Family Code. In the mediation session they will not address any monetary or property issues. The mediators are employed by the county and see only cases where a motion has been filed with the court.

Tuesday, February 2, 2016

The Components Of Child Support


Child support has three different components. You need to know about each component so you are not surprised when the judge makes a child support order.


The first component is the child support amount itself. That is determined by placing information into a DissoMaster or Child Support Calculator and a number then being generated.

The second has to do with health insurance and unreimbursed medical expenses. The Family Code requires both parties to have health insurance for the children if it is available at a reasonable cost. For many couples this does not make sense as many plans do not work together. Spending extra money to have two plans is a waste of money. I try to have parents compare plans and choose the best plan with the best cost and agree the parent with the best plan provide the health insurance for the children. The default is the law if the parent carrying the insurance loses it for some reason. With the cost of plans these days it makes sense to maximize the money available.

The unreimbursed medical expenses fall under health care. Generally each party is ordered to pay one-half of unreimbursed medical costs not covered by insurance. This can include medical, dental, vision, mental health etc. Essentially any expense that would be categorized as a health related expense is covered.

The third component is child care. In most instances the parties are ordered to each pay one-half of work and/or educationally related child care.

Tuesday, January 26, 2016

If I Am Awarded A Portion Of The Other Party’s Retirement Plan, How Do I Get Paid?


Any type of retirement plan needs to be handled in a special way to ensure the non-participant spouse receives the percentage awarded to them.

Many people do not realize what needs to be done to ensure payment happens when retirement comes along. An order for payment in the Judgment does not guarantee the plan will make the payment. First the plan may know nothing about the order. If they don’t know about it, they aren’t going to send the payment due. Second, there is no valid court order as to the plan if the order for payment is only set forth in the Judgment.

By law, a court can only make a valid order against a person or entity who is a party to the court case. So, by definition, if the plan is not a party to the divorce, the court order does not and can not bind them.

When a plan is going to be divided, a Summons and Petition for Joinder are filed with the court. The papers must be served on the plan. The plan then files a response. This now makes the plan a party to the divorce action. The court can now make an order the plan must follow. 

The next step is the order. A copy of the Judgment alone is not sufficient. A special order called a Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO for short) must be prepared. The order is approved by the retirement plan, signed by the parties and counsel and then sent to court for the judge’s signature. this makes the QDRO a valid binding court order. The order is served on the plan. The plan will recognize the QDRO and follow the order contained in it. 

The order will be kept and at retirement the plan calculates the amount the spouse and non-participant spouse will receive. Each will receive their own check. One thing to always remember is to keep the plan updated on your address so they have the correct address to send the check to.

Tuesday, January 19, 2016

How Long Do I Have To Pay Child Support?


The Family Code sets out the length of time child support must be paid. In most cases it is until the child reaches the age of 18, or, if at 18, they are still a full time high school student, until they graduate or reach 19, whichever occurs first.

The above is set up to make sure the children have both parents assistance until they are an adult and have graduated from high school. Many children turn 18 while they are in their senior year of high school. The 19 year old limit helps allow for a child that may have been held back at some point during their education.

There are a few exceptions to the general rule. The exceptions are the child becomes emancipated through the court, gets married or joins the armed forces. These would legally stop child support before the time limit set forth in the first paragraph.

Can you be required to pay support after a child becomes an adult? Yes, if the child is mentally and/or physically disabled and cannot take care of themselves. Taking care of themselves, meaning cannot hold down a job, cannot care for themselves independently etc.


Once a child is an adult, you as the parent, are no longer required by law to provide for them. What you decide to do for them is at your discretion. That means you cannot be forced to help with college. How much you help with any education after high school is up to you.

Tuesday, January 12, 2016

What Is Child Support Supposed To Pay For?


A few statements I hear a lot are: “the money isn’t going to my kids. I want to mom/dad to account for the money.” ”He/she is living better than I am.”

Child support helps cover many things. It is to help provide a home to live in. Rent for a parent and children is more than if the parent only had to house themselves. Then there is PG&E. Children use electricity as do the adults. How about transportation? A parent needs to have a car. The car needs gas, insurance and maintenance. Gas cost is higher if the parent has to take the children to school, appointments and extracurricular activities. Then there is food to eat. Depending on the age the food bill can add up. The children need clothes and personal care items. There are school supplies and projects that have a cost. Many children are in activities. Those all have a cost. There are registration fees, special clothes, costs if they travel, weekly or monthly charges if the children are in lessons. All parents want to have some extra to do fun things like eating out, parks, movies etc. It all adds up.

As for the living situation, it may look that way. One thing to remember is the parent with the larger share of time with the children is providing more for the children. The out of pocket cost to feed/house/clothe one person is far different than two, three, four and so on.

Does the support allow the receiving parent to live better than they might without the support? Sometimes, yes. The support calculation is set up to keep the standard of living for the children similar in each household.

Tuesday, January 5, 2016

The Parent Who Would Receive Child Support Is Receiving Cash Aid, Now What?



Once the parent who would be entitled to receive child support is receiving aid, there are a set of rules that will apply. When a parent starts receiving aid they give up the right to negotiate a child support amount. They sign over the right to set and receive child support to the county. The Department of Child Support Services becomes involved. They step into the shoes of the parent receiving aid.

The Department of Child Support Services will file papers to start a case and set child support. Sometimes they try to work out an agreement for child support before filing a motion with the court, sometimes not. 

If they file a motion the payor parent will need to file a response and appear at the hearing. If they do not appear the court can set an order.

When appearing for a hearing it will be in a Family Support Court. the parties will be interviewed by a Family Support Officer. The Family Support Officer will prepare a Child Support Calculator based on the information obtained in the interview. The parties can agree or disagree with the figure. If they agree, the court will review the calculation and make the agreement the order of the court. if the parties disagree the court will allow the parties to argue on the factors they disagree upon. Because the County is now in the shoes of the recipient spouse, they will be allowed to argue their points as well. Once the court has heard the arguments, the judge will make an order.


Once the order has been set, a wage assignment will be prepared and served on the payor’s employer. The support will be deducted from the payor’s check and sent to the County.

The County will keep track of all of the payments made and when they are made. If a person owes any back support, the County can collect it through a few different means. If you receive a tax refund, it will be intercepted and applied to the back support. They can also levy bank accounts to collect the back support.

If you do not pay, they can take away your driver’s license and/or any other license you have, i.e. contractor’s license, notary license etc.

For all back support owed there is interest tacked on at the legal rate. The interest can add up if one is not careful.